In bygone days, our grandparents and all the generations before them used public places or mutual connections to find their potential spouses. In the digital age, with the hectic pace of life and career obsession, we can rarely find sufficient time for old-school dating. Men and women use smartphone dating apps, connecting them with millions of other users.
However, is it the real key to meaningful interactions, and, most importantly, building happy families? Matchmakers still exist, having reinvented themselves in order to render their services online. Why is a marriage agency still better than a dating app?
The Drawbacks Of Online Dating Apps
Dating apps and websites connect millions of people, offering a seemingly endless choice. However, they are also infiltrated by scammers, spammers, and people looking for one-night stands. There is no guarantee that the person you contact is actually looking for something bigger than a fling. Unless this comes up before the first date, a disastrous evening is guaranteed.
Married people cheat on their spouses using dating apps, and many users merely pretend to be in search of a serious relationship. Such experiences breed painful distrust. The second major drawback is the psychological effect of swiping. Our society is obsessed with appearance to the point where we casually dismiss a candidate based on a single picture. On the other hand, photos that attract us may be airbrushed, and if we bother to study the profile information, it may also be misleading, causing us to develop expectations that are unmet.
Of course, everyone wants to make themselves appear attractive, but it gets tiring when you catch so many people in a lie. Imagine going on a date just to discover that someone looks nothing like their profile photo. Even if there are matching criteria based on a questionnaire, you can never check the accuracy of someone’s answers. This is especially disappointing when such services are paid for.
Why Marriage Agencies Are Simply Better
When you pay to a marriage agency, you are more likely to get your money’s worth. First of all, as the name suggests, they are marriage-oriented, catering to people seeking lasting relationships, which also determines a more serious approach to matchmaking. An agency will ask you to answer a series of questions to determine your psychological profile and priorities. The typical procedure includes:
- filling out a questionnaire(s);
- reviewing provided matches;
- contact by email;
- contact by phone;
- face-to-face meeting.
As the candidates also pay for the service, they are likely to treat the search seriously. People are matched based on psychological traits, tastes, values, religion, etc. Although some users stretch the truth, the screening is more reliable. Overall, it is your best bet if you want to find a true soulmate willing to start a family.